The One Habit That Saved My Relationship

Are You Really Talking to Each Other?

Are you talking to your partner?

I’m not talking about the quick check-ins during dinner or the casual “How was your day?”

I’m talking about the honest conversations:

• How are you doing?

• What do you need from me?

• Where are we going as a couple?

For most of us, life moves too fast. Work, deadlines, distractions—it’s easy to lose track of each other. You assume everything’s fine until one day, you wake up feeling like strangers.

The Cost of Avoiding These Conversations

We almost fell into this trap.

Disconnection doesn’t show up with flashing lights.

It sneaks in.

At first, you’re just busy. Then, weeks pass, and you realize you haven’t asked your partner what they think or feel.

You’re not on the same page about goals, and unspoken frustrations start piling up.

And the worst part? You might not even notice until the distance feels too wide to cross.

We didn’t want that for us.

A Monthly Dinner Habit

A year and a half ago, my wife found an insight online that stopped her in her tracks:

Have a monthly dinner with your partner to talk about what truly matters.

It sounded almost too simple, but we gave it a shot.

Every month, we sit down—just the two of us—and cover the real stuff:

• How are we doing individually?

• How is our relationship?

• What’s next for us?

At first, it felt a bit awkward, but the more we did it, the more we realized how much we’d been missing.

What Changed for Us

Here’s what’s changed since we started:

• Better communication. We’re not perfect, but we’re doing a much better job of being honest and avoiding assumptions.

• Shared clarity. We know what we’re working toward. Individually and as a team.

• A stronger bond. When you’re aligned, everything feels more manageable.

This one habit has transformed how we show up for each other.

How to Make It Work for You

Want to make this work? Here’s what helped us:

1. Prepare Ahead of Time

   Throughout the month, jot down things you want to discuss—plans, questions, or anything on your mind.

2. Do a Monthly Review

   Before the dinner, reflect on the past month. How did it go? What could be improved?

3. Be Honest

   Talk about your goals, struggles, and hopes for the future. It’s not just about “us” but also about supporting each other as individuals.

4. Talk About the Future

   Discuss your plans and make sure you’re aligned. Surprises are fun, but not when it comes to life goals.

A Simple Fix for Feeling Disconnected

This is your solution if you’re feeling disconnected in your relationship.

It’s not rocket science. It’s a dinner, once a month, with the person who matters most.

Ask the fundamental questions:

• How are you?

• How are we?

• What’s next for us?

It’s simple, but it works.

Will You Try It?

Give it a shot. One dinner. One real conversation.

It could be the habit that changes everything.

And when you do, let me know how it goes—I’d love to hear what you discover.