How I Finally Hit "Post" On My First Video (And What I Learned)

Hey there,

This week, I finally did something I've been avoiding for years.

I recorded a video about coaching, clicked "post," and shared it with the world. It wasn't perfect. I cringed while watching it back. But none of that matters because I actually did it.

The voice that kept me quiet

For too long, I made videos that stayed trapped in my laptop. The pattern was always the same:

• Record myself talking about ideas

• Watch the video back

• Cringe at how I looked and sounded

• Abandon all initiative

Sound familiar? Maybe you've felt that voice in your head saying, "Not good enough yet" or "People will judge you."

It drains your energy, doesn't it? Always planning to start "someday" when you feel ready.

What this silence really costs us

The problem with waiting for perfection? Perfect never arrives.

While we wait, opportunities slip away:

• Connections we could be making

• People we could be helping

• Skills we could be building

All these benefits stay locked in an imaginary future.

The price of comfort is high. My ideas stayed in my head. People who might connect with my message never heard it. And I never improved at the very thing I wanted to get better at.

Let's be honest: you can't get better at something by avoiding it.

What actually helped me post

The change wasn't about becoming fearless or suddenly confident. What changed was how I treated myself.

My inner critic used to control me with thoughts like:

• "You look awkward on camera"

• "You don't sound smart enough"

• "Nobody cares what you have to say"

Now I notice these thoughts without believing them. I choose self-love over self-criticism.

I also learned about two types of readiness:

1. Emotional readiness: Loving yourself enough to be imperfect in public

2. Skill readiness: Having technical abilities mastered

I realized something important: we probably never feel fully skilled enough. That's normal. But we can decide to be okay with where we are right now and just start anyway.

What happened when I finally hit "post"

My first video has problems:

• Shaky delivery

• Too many "uhms"

• Lack of confidence in parts

But good things happened too:

• A weight lifted from my shoulders

• I now have a starting point to improve from

• I created an opportunity to connect with people

The best part is that It felt much easier than I expected. The monster in my mind turned out to be mostly just a shadow.

Why this matters (especially if you're building something)

Videos create connections that text alone cannot.

When creating anything (a business, community, or sharing your passion), videos help people:

• See your face

• Hear your voice

• Watch how you think

• Feel like they know you

People support others they feel connected to.

Remember: Everyone you admire online started somewhere. Their first videos probably weren't great either, but they posted anyway.

What if you just started?

What have you been putting off because you don't feel "ready"?

Could be:

• Making videos

• Writing a blog post

• Starting a newsletter

• Launching a business

• Having a difficult conversation

Try this simple approach: Give yourself permission to be a beginner. Notice your inner critic without believing it. Choose self-love over self-judgment.

Then take action, even if it's imperfect.

You might find, like I did, that it feels lighter than expected.

Want to see my imperfect first attempt? Watch it here. I'd love to know what you're working on too. Just reply to this email and tell me what you're finally ready to start.

Until next week, Alex

P.S. How would your life change if you stopped waiting to be "good enough" and simply started practicing in public?